Event organizer

Since I came home June last year, I found myself voluntarily being an event organizer. From my mom's and dad's birthday dinner, my girlfriends' gathering to baby shower. I don't know how I landed on this role but by now, wherever we wanted to gather, my girlfriend would asked me to organize.

Honestly, I am not an event organizer material. I'm impatient, not so good in handling difficult people, indecisive and don't know how to say no. So why I become one is still a mystery. Actually the first time I organized a gathering, it was so easy. It was less than a week notice and turned out everybody free on that day and walla! the gathering happened. Then I thought maybe it wasn't so bad. So I took lead on our next outing which was visiting Intan and her baby. It was supposed to be very easy. Fixed a date and time, and off we go. Buuutttt... There was drama. I have to let my friend handled that drama coz I was scared that I might say something stupid and spoilt the friendship. At the end everything turned out well.

So this time I was 'assigned' to organize the baby shower, I was excited. I never attend a baby shower before, let alone organized one. So I thought I would be simple where we going to have lunch or tea and that's it. But a week before that, Intan called and asked me how the progress. Then at that time, I panicked! I have to think about the decoration, games, door gift, themes etc. So I asked Intan if she can help me buying gifts and choose the games. The rest I'll do it. Like the last one, the drama queen emerged again. But this it's more complicated as it involved budget and preparation. At the end, I have to absorb all the cost coz she decided not to come at last minute.

That's the thing about being an organizer, sometimes you have to be the black sheep, telling your friend they can't bring their spouse coz this is all-ladies event. Sometimes you have to deal with people who are not flexible, wanting everybody follow her way when everyone has agreed on a decision. Sometimes you have to absorb the cost coz someone decided not to come last minute. Sometimes you have to do all the thing alone coz nobody volunteer as this is more of volunteer role, I rather have someone volunteer to help rather than I ask them to do it. So far Alhamdulillah, I have friends who always willing to volunteer and help me. But the most important of all, you need to find a date and time where everyone can attend it.

This is different than planning your own party. When you plan your own party, you just set a date and start organize the party. You don't have deal whether the date is free for everyone, whether the location is fine with everyone and so on.

So anyway, deep down inside I really enjoy doing this, that's why I always volunteer. But sometimes I just wish, not an impossible wish, I wish that people will cooperate with me. Especially that particular people. Please don't make my life harder by making last minute decision and say something that make people feel guilty. Everybody has different problems and challenges in life, but it doesn't mean that yours was the worst.

That day I was so angry that I told Intan that I wanted to resign being an organizer. She said I will be an organizer for life in our group and she will propose that on our AGM. We have an AGM? Hahahaaha... Wait, do I have to organize that? Haha..

But at the end, when all the ladies come together, laughing, gossiping and having good time, all the hardship of putting this up just melted away. I just glad that my friends trust me for all my decision and thankful that I have such a wonderful close friends.