Thursday, February 22, 2007

Wishful thinking

What do you think of marrying at early age? Not an option right. A lot of people say you must be stable first than only you can think about getting married... bla..bla...bla..

Imagine this, when you married at an early age when you are a nobody in this world and together both of you struggle and work hard until you are an important person in the society. Would the taste of success would become sweeter? Together both of you trying to make ends to survive, starting online business to get extra money and rent a room coz can't afford a house. Then together both of you rise, gain more money and reputation... and finally, 50 years ahead, when both of you sitting side by side beside the pool with backgroud of posh mansion own by you on top of the hill overlook the city while you rest your head on his shoulder... you can say, "Remember honey when we were young, we were struggling to live but together we as a team, we finally made it." Then you can say that you have found your soulmate and at that moment, if God say that it's time for you to go, you won't be afraid coz you know that both of you can meet again in heaven perhaps...InsyaAllah. Or when he tell you that he's getting new wife when both of you already succeed, you can tell him (or reminisce the old stories to make him realize how both of you has struggle together and how he would ruin the perfect team if another member join in. He might at least would think twice if not cancel the plan. This actually works according to a friend of mine. Hehe).

But what if both of you already stable and successful when you get married, then you will think that you can live without him. You don't need each other to live. Marriage was like to fulfill you sexual needs, society expection and bore some children. He came when you are successful and might leave you when you become useless. When he took another wife or berpoya-poya with other girls, he would say that that's his money, he can do anything he want with it. You have no right in his property. On the bright side, at least when you divorce, there's no harta sepencarian. It's either his or hers.

So.... the conclusion of all this wishful thinking is that.... well, malu la nak cakap. Nevermind la... no conclusion. Oh yes, at least you will prevent more sins right.

Talk about wedding, congratulations to Yon who get married last Sunday... Semoga bahagia sehingga akhir hayat (not only until anak cucu ok...)

15 comments:

Anonymous said...

Mun.. sy sokong 120%... ;p

Anonymous said...

da conclusion....make sure 'him' not from 'kaya' background but have potential to be succed...rite??? (=

muNm said...

miss anon, yon kan? hahaha... awk mesti la setuju...

ej, kayapun ok jugak... at least the struggling not so hard la. struggle skit2 je... hehe... the desire to succeed is a must for every man. kalau kaya tp asyik menghabiskan duit mak bapak pun tak guna kan.

Anonymous said...

its ok for u bcos u came from wealthy Family....but imagine if u r not stable (Especially man)....how to kawin? how to beli rumah, tanggung anak, makan minum family.?....and the sad'est' part is........WOMEN, wont even look at u as a reliable person if u r not stable enough to support her.. rite? im not saying evry women like tat, but i ve met the species before...n its true...even a married couple..end up divorced becoz the wife found another man, RICHER than his husband.....think about it... :)

Anonymous said...

Mr. Anonymous....every person no matter men or women will look for reliably person to be hook upon. A man wants a woman who can love him, cuddle him, cooks for him etc...and vice versa, nobody wants to get married just to have more problem than the one they already have right?

It is true that there are women who left their husband for more richer guy but then there are guy who left their wife for the more beautiful or young lady. God equal balancing technique?

It is not about being rich or poor but how badly you want to be with the other person no matter how the weather changes..

but then when it comes to the 4 letter words...L.O.V.E..nobody can really choose. it is still up to God..

Anonymous said...

YES(to 2nd Mr Anonymous)...
"Mr. Anonymous....every person no matter men or women will look for reliably person to be hook upon. A man wants a woman who can love him, cuddle him, cooks for him etc...and vice versa, nobody wants to get married just to have more problem than the one they already have right? " .... :)
The point here was...u need to be STABLE (NOT RICH)before married .......... RITE? and again im saying from ma xperience..its hurt when someone tat says "LOVE U NO MATTER WHT HAPPEN" since last 5-6 years, but ended up with "Sorry, Im leaving, u cant support me anymore..." and believes me weather do change...it just a matter how bad it is and how prepared u r.... :)...

"ej, kayapun ok jugak... at least the struggling not so hard la. struggle skit2 je... hehe..."

:) get my point? :)hehee

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Dare u people to fill it UP and make it Less than RM10000.....And I'll agree wif (no need to be stable to marry)

Anonymous said...

* to get married wif ur love one

phahmeen said...

hehe...waaa..lama tak baca blog ni...hangat2...Mun...mesti la kene stabil dulu sebelum kawin :) at least cukup duit utk belanja kawin..:p

muNm said...

everybody...mr/miss/mrs anon (lain kali taruk name ye, even name samaran pun tak kesah. psl susah nak differentiate both of u)... thanks for your concern/comments/idea...

just would like you to know that this is just a wishful thinking... reality is different...it's worse. but you u guys saying is true... nak kawin memerlukan byk duit. n to try to find the 'perfect' companion is worth more than money can buy. so if you meet someone that can be your lifetime partner in rain or shine, try every means to be his/her legal partner ASAP. just a simple akad nikah would be enough for both of u. after that, baru la plan grand wedding at klcc ke sheraton ke... (simpan la duit sama2)

Anonymous said...

Huh....hangat2...
AnonymousSS...macam ada baca buku mas kahwin yang hilang je??kalau nak leh dapatkan dari saya...eheheheh

I think wat u said its true...just looked back when u wanna go uotin wif ur bf..do u want him to 'belanje' u makan?? 'belanje' u watch movie?? so if he not stable..or wat my poin here if jobless or dunno how to manage money..that how u wanna to marry that guys??how u can beliv when u life together u will be succeed??pls...just not thinkin about the best to life together but not the worst...hahahhaha maybe tat y mine still dun have no one..(=

but this a good discussion for us b4 goin to 'pelamin'....n just to say if u really 'niat' nak nikah & kahwin..i'm sure Allah will give u jalan and dimurahkan rezki...but dua2 mesti nak berkahwin not only one...ehehehe (:+

Anonymous said...

Mun maybe you should change your comment setting so it pop up instead of going to another page..nak letak nama pun senang sikit...the setting now seems a little awkward and messy tu yg asyik keluar anynomous jer tu..beta blogger pun bengong sometimes....Leen <">V

muNm said...

ok leen... this weekend, i'll try to fix it... mungkin lambat la consindering my html knowledge

Anonymous said...

Tak payah guna html pun...just go to the 'settings' page in your blogger dashboard pas tu klik kat 'comment' tab..there's one question Show comments in a popup window? click yes and its done. - Leen

muNm said...

oh ye ke? ok... thanks leen..

muNm said...

yeay...dah jadik leen...

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